Not only are fathers called to take on a spiritual leadership that creates the condition to build character in your children, but we each have to take on a correct perspective. We need to each remember that as parents, we are actually…
Adoptive Fathers and Mothers (Psalm 127:3-5a- NLT) Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. 4 Children born to a young man are like arrows in a warrior’s hands. 5 How joyful is the man whose quiver is full of them! In the Ancient Near East, children were seen as a blessing—they ensured the parents had someone to care for them later in life, they were a sign that God had provided enough to care for a large clan, and they carried on the family name. The Psalmist is absolutely clear as to the source of the gift, the Giver is God. Meaning for us, no matter how you came to parent your children: adopted children, foster children, or have your own biological children, we cannot confuse our role of steward with God’s role as sovereign. Don’t miss the trajectory of an arrow. An arrow is not meant to stay forever in the quiver, but is meant to be shot out into the world. We take on an adoptive role rather than an author role.
Charles Francis Adams, 19th century political figure and diplomat, kept a diary. One day he entered: “Went fishing with my son today–a day wasted.” His son, Brook Adams, also kept a diary, which is still in existence. On that same day, Brook Adams made this entry: “Went fishing with my father–the most wonderful day of my life!” The father thought he was wasting his time while fishing with his son, but his son saw it as an investment of time. The only way to tell the difference between wasting and investing is to know one’s ultimate purpose in life and to judge accordingly. Silas Shotwell, in Homemade, September 1987.
Maybe you are informally fulfilling the role of parent, of father, mentor to a local child in the neighbor, maybe you take them fishing or hunting. Maybe they will never have your last name. Think about how realizing our place as adoptive parents changes things for us. If our children are a product of God’s blessing rather than our building. The goal through God changes–not just to raise a good kid—the goal becomes raising a godly kid.